When people doubt your memory loss or TBI…

I have learned on this journey to remember my past, that not everyone, even those that say they know you will believe you lost a part of you…

Recently a friend that says they know me as far back as Japan in the late 60’s, reached out to me on Face Book via friend request a couple of years ago…  I had no clue who they were, except, for one thing… I had a picture of that person in my photo album, that had their maiden name written on it… That was the only reason I accepted the friend request…

I still have zero memories of this person and our time spent together on Japan as teenagers…

Recently this friend asked how I knew I had a TBI, did a doctor tell me, that kind of questioning… 

This immediately told me that maybe they had not been reading my blog OR they did not understand what I had written in the blog…

Those of us who have suffered a TBI and lost a part of themselves, deal with this kind of skepticism all the time…

It would be like me saying I understand what people with cancer go through, when I have never had cancer… It is in-appropriate to say you understand what someone is dealing with when it comes to life and death situations, if you never experienced it…

I was greatly irritated by this friends question of doubt about my TBIs, so I chose to respond and tell the friend the facts… I have no memories of our friendship or time spent together on Japan at Johnson AFB…

If you are a combat veteran or you had a traumatic accident or a victim of domestic violence and suffered a TBI and lost a part of yourself… DO NOT LET THESE PEOPLE influence your journey and progress… Doubters are every where, even in your own families…

No one will understand what kind of hell you are living, with a part of you gone… Losing some or all of your memories, is no different from losing a limb… The limb will still itch, even if it no longer is part of you… So goes the same for brain injury and memory loss…

Do not allow anyone, not family, not friends, not anyone to discourage you from your journey to find answers…

Just be willing to accept, if that time comes… You may never get your answers, and just like losing a limb, you may have to accept the memories you are searching for may be gone forever also…

It’s ironic, this person is religious and believes in a man-made god… I am a living, breathing, heart beating human that is living and walking, yet I am doubted…

I have a saying, but It doesn’t seem appropriate… I can only hope that those who believe in man-made gods, learn to believe in real, living human beings…

There is hope, that those of us with TBI’s and lost memory, will be whole some day… that is what I cling too… Hope… and not some made up deity…

As Stephen Hawking says, look up at the stars and not down at your feet…

Times Up #MeToo

I Remember….

 

Author: maggi9454

My earliest memory is before the age of 2... by the time I was 13, I had no childhood memories... No holidays, no birthdays... On 11/5/17 a shooter in Texas changed all that... It triggered my memories from my 13th year... The Air Force covered it up an it happened in Big Springs, Texas 1967... Domestic violence, PTSD, TBI and I too served in the Air Force 10 years later... This is my story to remember what was stolen...