Reality between the eyes…

I have been trying to reconcile things Don (dad) told me over the years about a brother of his…

Well I just got done offending my cousin, by not asking what I wanted to ask in a more direct way and come to find out… Don lied, again…. Just wow or should I hit my own head like I missed out on a V8….

It makes me go back and look more closely at memories and view them in a different light… What was Don trying to hide or was that just who he was… a consummate liar???

I do not have that answer… I just know that something happened between Don & Stanley that impacted the relationship they had sometime around 1967/68… Don was close with his family, we kids all knew our aunts and uncles… what we didn’t know… the skeletons in that family were coming out of the closet and still are coming out of the closet… 

I caught my mother lying on more than one occasion… simply by asking questions about stories she told when I was a child… stories that stuck with me and usually were related to an act of violence… Eidetic memory comes in handy once in a while… as for Don, I gave him every opportunity to own his life before he died… he declined… and that will be how I remember him… a man afraid to own his own life…

What happened today with my cousin is a stark reminder that my romantic ideas of family were just that… the reality of it is… lots went on behind closed doors and the myth of family never was… it was just an illusion so people could continue to violate the bible they believed in and the laws they voted on and destroy more lives in the process…but their god will forgive them….

Yep, you really can’t fix stupid… and today was my stupid…

TimesUp #MeToo

I Remember… Margie….